Self Care and How are you doing
My personal notes from a self care training led by Dr. Shahana Alibhai to increase awareness on mental health. Foundry - Where Wellness Takes Shape that makes health care accessible including same day counselling.
From the training, I added connections I believe to - Stoicism - Stoicism such as virtue.
Feelings
Section titled “Feelings”Ask how you might ask someone how they are really feeling? with health, work, finances, relationships, family, wins and losses
Vulnerability comes by being responsible for your mental health and ask what you are going to do and take action. Managing your mental health is ongoing and changing.
What questions do you ask?
Section titled “What questions do you ask?”- What does one feel? It might be numbness (feeling nothing)
- Are you feeling happy in your life (feelings in life areas like relationships, work, health, etc.) and happy with your life (purpose, add value)?
Stress, Emotion, Perception
Section titled “Stress, Emotion, Perception”When there are perceived problems with life areas like family and finances, you can have stress. Stress can come from perceptions and expectations.
Personal Stories, like personal narrator
Section titled “Personal Stories, like personal narrator”A story you tell yourself (you never, you should, you could be, you have to) may be distracting and driving you away from your virtue.
Self care involves being aware of these stories and things you may be doing to regulate feelings, like addictions and media consumption.
Fear and Shame
Section titled “Fear and Shame”Be aware of your fears like fear of judgement, not being good enough, rejection.
Opposites of your values can be fears like:
- Connection and fear of being alone
- Prestige and fear of have low value
Address them and aware fears will return later. Practice will make it easier to reduce impact of fears.
Self Care
Section titled “Self Care”Self care for stress
- Know not everything will go your way - address expectations. Value virtue, what you believe is important
- Be aware of your emotions and perceptions, name them and it helps move through the emotions.
Self care for personal stories involves physical activity, meditation.
Examples:
- Breath where exhale greater than inhale - a physiological sigh which relaxes body.
- Short exercise activity, less than 5 minutes. Like a couple reps or (self) hug
- Mental time travel - review an issue a week or more later instead of right now
- Ask what might your mental/hero do?